You wrote so many letters to your future husband, blogs about your singleness, and even tossed a roll of toilet-paper-turned-tissues at your best friend shouting, "I'll ALWAYS be alone! Always!" that it seemed fitting to write a letter to you now that you'll be married in just 3 1/2 months. After all, writing and being a drama queen was what you were always best at, anyway.
Like your current Brooke Fraser jam is lately, "Love is waiting until it's right." Look, love HAPPENS. You can't make it happen. So those guys you liked but didn't happen to be smitten with you in return, or those guys who liked you but you just didn't happen to like in return...well, guess what? They were all wrong for you. Why? Love happens. DON'T FORCE IT TO HAPPEN. When love is forced, it is done to be crowd pleaser.
Next thing is, you ginger pal, is that you will meet Andy when you least expect it, so don't expect it. That new boy at church today is NOT the one. Leave him alone. Stop flirting.
You ginger chick, keep making pals. Keep serving summer missions for Christ. Keep doing ISM and stick around in your campus ministry/church. Keep making new pals. But don't look down on those who are in love and please don't be jealous of them. Don't think you're better than them or try to convince yourself of the sort. Because there is a stage for everything, dear Ginger Sauce, and soon you'll be in that stage and others will mock you for Skyping Andy every night as you're doing long distance overseas.
Oh Caroliney-girl (as Daddy likes to call you...oops, you just shared some too personal info agaiiin heh)....you are lovely. You're pretty inside and out. And you like to imagine Future Hubs as a dude who will be staring at you and be mesmerized by your beauty every waking moment and who will always be enchanted by your Caroline-ness....andddd guess what? You're cool. But you're not THAT cool. You will drive Andy crazy at times, Little Miss. Heh, you will drive him nuts frequently because you're crazy. Sorry man. You're not perfect. You are flawed. He knows it. He is reminded of it daily.
Now that Andy Todd (as his mother likes to call him...oops, once again...too personal info!!) will rock your socks off. His life is a reflection of God's love in his own Andy way and together you two will have an amazing ministry with international students. But as you are not perfect, Andy is not perfect. Oh he tries, but...he's a man trying to love an emotional, complex female-may God help him! Like you are flawed, he will be flawed, too. But you love him as he loves you-unconditionally. Sounds like how Christ loved the Church :) :) :)
Be careful with your purity. You'll find that all of that "dress modestly cuz guys are visual" stuff is oh-so-true and you'll make some dumb mistakes with that as an immature first year FSU student. You and Andy will realize that your parents were wise, wise, wise when they set boundaries for you, as you two try to follow them now. You're stoked about that wedding night!!!
Dear Single Caroline, There's a season for everything, and different things are best in different times. Some flowers bloom best in spring, others in fall. Enjoy the gifts God has given you in Single Season and serve Him in the ways that bloom then. But, ya know, the Spoken For Season is pretty awesome, too. God will use you then in special ways then, too.
To my Dear, Single Caroline,
The Future Caroline Hazelton :)
